Major disconnect, yeah, it's scifi. The work around for all of this is the future metal technology introduced in Traveller, Bonded Superdense, for example.
We can tell from our work with space structures today that the old or even new design methods are inadequate. Still predicting performance of structural scale based on fiction metals is precarious. And after all is said and done, toss in anti-gravity tech.o:
We know from other Traveller sources that BSD's structural toughness is only a certain multiple (14x) of that of steel. So, IIUC, it needs 1/14th the area per given load. Which means the maximum useful ship size using BSD is likely only 14^(2/3) that of steel - about 5x the linear dimensions, or 125x the total volume.