I had chosen to just stay out of this (and the other thread) after my one post on it here despite the rising desire to respond to certain issues. I can't any longer. Or I should say won't.
Originally posted by Seanr451:
I suppose that everyone will answer in the negative to the following question then.
Is it possible that JCD would still be with us if not for the rude manner in which he was treated be some members of CotI?
Nice bit of assumption there Seanr451. Might as well ask is it possible that J.C.D. would still be with us if not for HIS rude manner in which he treated some members of CotI. Don't forget he was the one who started this with his hate campaign against a person from another board who isn't even here to defend himself.
He was asked, at first politely enough (and even to the end by some) to kindly cease and his response was to take it as a personal attack and bite back or ignore. Perhaps because some of it was public he felt he had to save face. Well I also PM'd him, early, to avoid that, and as far as I know he never even read that, despite being publicly asked and made aware of it sitting in his inbox, twice, to which he never replied either. Here is that PM, you tell me if it is rude:
Date: August 16
Subject: Please read this.
Message: Have you noticed a few posts that asked you to change your sig? Maybe you missed them. I think you missed an excellent post that did mention the real life Q-ships of the German Navy and just how effective they were so you might have missed the suggestions to dump the sig too. Please heed our freindly advice and drop it. Thanks.
After he finally relented and changed his "hate" sig he still missed no oppurtunity to plug a hate message whenever he could. We continued to, perhaps with less patience, tell him to get over it or at least drop it from his posts, but we never attacked or were rude in his posts on topic. He continued to ignore us. He had also at some point replaced his sig with a negative polititcal slogan and then added his public snub of a member of CotI who was doing nothing but trying to help him.
Of those of us who publicly asked and advised him, it was done to try to keep the forums a nice place for all and avoid having to bother Hunter at this time. We were just trying to help him get smoothly into the generally pleasant place this forum is. There were some "report posts" made when it was clear he wasn't getting the message but as far as I know from his attitude there were no measures taken directly from them. The report posts came after days or a week of his attitude and obvious denial that we had any "right" to tell him what was accepted behaviour. I again apologize for having to resort to bothering Hunter with this but it seemed necessary for the good of the board.
It was only when MJD stepped in and, politely enough from accounts, asked for J.C.D.'s attention to his attitude. And what did MJD get for his troubles? A typical answer from the sounds of it.
Meanwile I went to see what the latest was on a discussion I was in and the thread was gone. I at first thought another member had simply deleted their own post and so I couldn't find it but it soon became obvious that other posts were missing and the member I thought had a hand in it obviously couldn't have. I thought maybe it was a board refresh problem, for about 5 minutes, when I saw this thread. That answered the questions.
Not only had J.C.D. taken his ball and gone home vowing to never play with us again, but he broke our bat and threw the bases in the creek. And you wonder if we were rude? Now maybe he didn't know that deleting his first post would delete the whole topic but I doubt it. And even if he didn't know the disruption it would bring I'm pretty sure he didn't care, and from his attitude would just take it as a nice bit of bonus revenge for his perceived abuse.
Like I said, good riddance. I was willing to, and did, cut him a lot of slack early on. I figured he just needed to see that this was a different board than any he had likely ever encountered. It is a nice place and I'd like to keep it that way. If he had just dropped the 10ton chip on his shoulder he would have been very welcome here. His posts were great when he wasn't slipping in a hate message, which sadly was too often. If he were to come back with a fresh attitude he might be able to earn the trust and respect he lost but it won't be easy and I don't think he has it in him. Maybe when he grows up.
So, no Seanr451, I don't think J.C.D. would still be with us if not for the rude manner in which he was treated by some members of CotI because it was J.C.D. himself that caused the friction that wore away the polite manner in which he
was treated with his rudeness and petty vendettas and ignorant attitude. I think it was inevitable that he would leave this board, voluntarily or not, like he has at least two other boards. And that is all I will say on it.
I apologize for the length and thank you for your time.