Originally posted by Laryssa:
I would except for the fact that he always disagrees with me, he disagrees with me consistently. If I simply took guesses, chances are I would be right at least some of the time. Yet Cameron always makes a point of automatically disagreeing with me, and then trying to find facts that support him.
Kalbfus,
I always disagree with you? I guess that's why I wrote this in this very thread:
Now for the only important part of my post. Although your Venus as Earth's moon idea will not work in reality, it does not necessarily follow that your Venus as Earth's moon will not work as a game setting. Reality and game settings are two very different things.
Because your idea is fun and interesting, it is automatically a fun and interesting game setting.
Like your earlier Ringworld ideas, I've enjoyed your suggestions regarding this setting. I do hope you put whatever comes out of this thread into in some sort of document that COTI can then host in the FLibrary. You failed to do that with your Ringworld ideas sadly.
Please keep all these ideas coming, Tom. And do try and listen to rest of us when we add a little something from our various areas of expertise, be it industrial production and tech development from me or planetography and orbital mechanics from Constantine. Sometimes we actually do know what we're talking about.
Have fun 'cause I'm having fun with your idea,
Bill
That was written about a year ago before I gave up on you. You can find it on Page 3 of this thread.
What you fail to realise and what you always fail to realise is that people do not take exception to your ideas and opinions as much as they take execption to how you present those ideas and opinions.
I've liked your ideas in the past and I've said so. I written in open posts on at least two threads; this one and your Ringworld thread, that you should write up your ideas and submit them to Hunter for the fLibrary. That's not the actions of a person who always disagrees with with you.
Now for more serious matters...
You need professional help, professional psychiatric help. I firmly believe this.
Every time you frequent a forum, trouble ensues. Every time you touch a thread, it goes sour. You've been booted out, chased off, ignored, and told to shut up by moderators and posters alike across the internet. A simple google search reveals this. You're banned at SJGames, a persona non grata at SWHI, a laughing stock at WOTC, and just plain trouble everywhere else.
And yet, despite all this, you continue to believe that it is somehow not your fault, that your behavior has nothing to do with the way your treated in several forums and by hundreds of posters. That's not being stubborn or even willfully ignorant. That's a distorted view of reality.
It isn't your ideas and opinions that spark this. It's your behavior as you present and discuss those ideas and opinions. It's your personality or, more accurately, your
personality disorder that is at the root of all your troubles.
Most people simply believe you're a troll and an asshole. I do not because I refuse to believe that anyone would
choose to behave as you do. There must be an underlying cause and I think I've found it. I believe you suffer from a form of autism.
Autism is much more than Rain Man counting spilled matches and many people with autism can and do function independently after a fashion. One aspect of autism that is present in all the various levels and syndromes is an inability to interact socially with other humans in a successful and coherent manner. You display this deficit, and others associated with autism, to a marked degree.
Consider the following:
Fixed ideas and behaviors - Like the low functioning autistics who must watch the same TV show epsiode or the same movie over and over, you continually return to the same few
idee fixes in your posts and threads. When faced with complex human social interactions you can barely comprehend, it's a comfort to you to fall back on D&D monsters, ringworlds, anti-communism, hyper-patriotism, nanotechnology, and all the rest. You also love generating lists; worlds, encounters, TL charts, equipment charts, and so forth. The routine of following known procedures to grind out list after list is comforting to you. Unlike when you try to interact with other people and fail, there are no shocks or surprises when generating a list.
Inappropriate Anger - You display a 'knee jerk' or 'hair trigger' anger towards other poster's responses. The most innocuous remark can be miscontrued by you and viewed as a personal attack. (This is also part of the reading comprehension deficit I'll talk about next.) Suggestions, constructive criticism, and differing opinions are all seen by you in the same light. Because you cannot interact correctly with other people, you misinterperet many comments as personal attacks and then personally attack the poster in question. This is why flamewars are always going on around you. Because you percieve so many personal attacks where there are none, you have not been able to percieve the true nature of your presence at many fora. You truly believe it always the other guys' fault and never your own when the truth is the exact opposite if that.
Poor Reading Comprehension - The earlier pages of this thread is a very good example of this. It took Dr. Thomas several posts to impress the most basic information upon you. It wasn't that you didn't want to understand, it was because of your autism that you
couldn't understand. Because of your poor or nonexistent social skills, you find it very difficult and sometimes impossible to discuss or debate anything. The 'give and take' that is such an important part of information sharing is missing in your conversations and interactions. Unless the information presented to you to laid in the most basic terms and repeated several times, you simply cannot comprehend it because of your troubles with communication.
Short or easily diverted attention - This is very noticeable in your posts. You can rarely hold onto one train of thought for long. Your posts are long and rambling as each idea spills out after the next in no real order. You routinely post huge 'monoblocs' of text with little or no internal structure to them; i.e. no paragraphs. This 'stream of consciousness' type writing is normal to you and other autistics. It not normal for everyone else however.
Another indication of your attention span problems occurs when you are attempting to respond to another's post. More often than not, your post will have nothing to do with the post you're trying to respond to. People have made this observation for years now, which only confuses and angers you more. You believe you responded to the post because you sat down to respond to the post. However, what you began to type and what you finished up typing are usually two very different things.
You also have great difficulties adhering to thread topics. What is seen as natural topic progression to you because of your attention span deficits is seen by most others as 'thread-jacking'. Again, you cannot understand those accusations of 'thread-jacking' because thinking like that is normal to you.
You may be able to see how all these difficulties in communicating and this lack of scoial skills weighs you down. Your trouble in comprehending what others are saying, your inability to communicate effectively, and your trouble relating socially to other people all lead to hurt feelings, personal attacks, flamewars, and your current reputation on many fora. Your life must be a dark and weary one. If you exhibit such profound deficits in the limited interactive nature of web fora, the deficits you must struggle with in face-to-face, daily interactions must be daunting.
It doesn't have to be that way however.
You're a high functioning autistic. While I don't believe your claims of being a computer programmer as you've never once joined in any of the programming discussions here and the few remarks you've made concerning work have been limited to accounts of driving people around, I do believe that you hold down a job and function after a fashion in you community. That's a place to start. You've apparently developed coping mechanisms on your own. If not you'd be fired, thrown out of where you live, and beat up on a regular basis. Those 'homegrown' mechanisms can be a place to start.
Great strides have been made in just the last 5 years in helping high functioning autistics like yourself. You can be taught many coping mechanisms that will help you even more. You'll never learn how to successfully communicate with or relate to people on an innate level, you're just not 'wired' to do so. You can, with a lot of work, develop certain habits however. Those habits will help you cope with and successfully handle mainstream human interactions. You'll still be an
anthropologist on Mars to borrow Dr. Oliver Sack's wonderful phrase, but you'll be able to fit in with less of the trouble and misunderstanding you constantly deal with today.
Get some professional help, Kalbfus. It won't hurt a bit and it can only make your life a great deal better.
Bill