Is there a book or edition that gives hard numbers on background system traffic?
The best approach would be to base it off of trade volume numbers.
Interstellar trade traffic would be different from in system traffic. That depends on how busy the internal system is, how much travel is done through sub light vs just jumping to the outer system, etc.
The key things to note is the majority of traffic is predictable. These are long trips, people value time, they take the shortest route. As a general rule, space is REALLY boring. It's also, still, REALLY dangerous, and nobody really just wants to be out there. If you look at most modern shipping, they take common, known routes from port to port across the wide open oceans.
Same thing would happen for most space traffic.
That means that if you want to find the vast majority of the system traffic, it's not scattered all over the system, it's in just a few places, just a few trade lanes or trade routes. Meaning that the little blips that may pop up outside of those major traffic patterns, those might well get an extra glance over as who they are, and why they're there.
Also, all traffic has some kind of identity transponder, actively pinging. If some background cosmic anomaly stands out on a scanner, it better be pinging back to make it less of one, or its going to gather even more interest. Particularly if it wasn't there yesterday.
We don't do daily sky scans because we don't have too. We try to keep track of the potentially dangerous rocks out there that might prove cataclysmic, and we do detect most of them. Sometimes, one sneaks in an startles the astronomers. And, yes, its fair to say you don't know what you don't know, and there are very likely ones we've missed completely. Thankfully, they've missed us, so, no harm no foul.
But we do look.
At the same time, our security situation, outside of a rogue rock, which by definition needs to be pretty big to bother with in the first place, doesn't warrant a more detailed, or timely view of the sky. We don't have space traffic to monitor.
That said, I'm pretty sure everything in orbit is, literally and figuratively, on somebodies RADAR. As a rule, I think those working in space have detailed knowledge of everything floating around up there, from space stations, to satellites, to rogue nuts, bolts, and wrenches.
In a future situation with a lot of space traffic, we'll have to set up some kind of more robust, more up to date status of the sky, requiring more scans, and more power, and, likely, some work on instrument sensitivity. We don't have that now because its simply not needed.
If we start needing to care if a pixel dot in deep space is important for us to keep track of, we'll start putting out deep space sensor platforms to make those dots easier to pick up and identify.